Your home is your castle, so defend it.

thecastle Our little family have recently had a big battle on our hands, just to stay in our home, or as Darryl Kerrigan would say ‘our castle’. I would consider ourselves to be the kind of tenants I’d want for my investment property – we have the place professionally cleaned weekly, always pay rent on time, and are respectful to our home and neighbours. However, this was not enough for our landlords who gave us notice to leave without grounds, after an agreement was made to install air-conditioning. I’m sure any parent of an infant, that lives in a climate that can climb to temperatures over 30 Degrees Celsius would want air-conditioning. We agreed in writing to the new terms and increased rent, but the landlords decided in the last minute, after getting a quote, to not go ahead with it, plus kick us out to make sure they didn’t have to. I quickly found out we were dealing with people, who’s word meant nothing. For me personally, this was not good enough on all levels. A person is only worth their word, so I saw it my duty to fight this whim and injustice – and I won. I won’t go into the details, but basically a tribunal ruled in our favour, and the landlords were forced to keep to their word. And yes, I was very tempted to say ‘it’s just the vibe’ at the hearing, but in the end I thought it best not to.thecastle1

The reason I’m sharing this little story is because I could not have found the right words, to keep the landlords and agents to their word, without the help of our local Tenants Union Queensland. This is a free service that is available to all Queensland Tenants, and I gather there would be similar services for other regions. Tenancy Law can be a little vague and open-ended, and us tenants need to be pointed in the right direction to help us enforce our rights. I found our property managers to be inadequately trained in their own area of expertise, and do not realise, that what they are trying to enforce for a landlord, does in fact at times not align itself with Tenancy Law.

Our Queensland Election is coming up this weekend and I’ve done some research into the rights of tenants, and who is in favour of upholding those rights, and in turn who will do what is right, for us voting tenants. Basically, vote Labor or Greens, if you value your position and rights when it comes to renting. I have copied and pasted a letter below, that I recently wrote to our Labor member and Liberal MP. The response from Labor follows after my letter, to date I have received no response from Liberal, which is disappointing as it’s an important issue for his particular electorate.

Renters, we must unite and support our tenancy union, not just for us and our family, but for future families like us. We are no longer the trashy stereotype, and deserve to be heard and respected, especially considering the high rents we now pay. Feel free to copy and paste parts of my letter below to send off to your local members, as the service needs our support to gain more funding. It is in our interest to have a better funded union, as they are the only true body that represents and looks after us and our families, as renters.

It was only with the help of their invaluable service, that I can now get back to normal life and enjoy our castle, whilst helping Rory build his 🙂rorysittingup

You can find more about your rights and what Tenants Union Queensland can do for you at


Dear Ms Grace,

I am writing to you regarding the importance of Tenants Queensland Inc and their invaluable service that they provide to Queensland residents, particularly Brisbane Central.

Nearly half of the Brisbane Central electorate are renters and their voices need to be represented and heard. There are too many examples within this community detailing the incompetence of property managers, and unlawful conduct by landlords, who due to their careless and ill-informed actions, both disrespect and disregard tenants and their rights.

I have personally been subjected to such conduct, and was helped immensely by the Tenants Queensland. It is because of their service, that we, as a family with a 6 month old, do not have to vacate our home on a whim of a landlord. Originally unaware of our rights, I could not have represented myself without their guidance during the dispute. Fortunately Tenancy Law and common sense favoured our position, and we are now able to get on with normal life.

In this current property climate, many potential first home buyers are unable to enter the property market, and the population of local renters will only increase, especially with the domestic values being propped up by outside investment. All these local residents, both current and future renters, need access to representation and information specific to their particular dispute, should one arise.

I found the RTA does not offer such a personalised service, and steers clear of the specifics for an individual’s dispute. On the other hand, Tenants Queensland tailors the information to your individual needs. The RTA as an impartial administrative service works fine, but us local residents need more than that, we need someone with the capacity to be in our corner, fighting against tenancy injustices, and improving our set of precedents through the utilisation of QCAT and mediation services.

Currently, Tenants Queensland is grossly underfunded and lacks the resources to represent us appropriately. With only a handful of people, over the last eleven months, they received over 95,000 attempts to contact them, which is a goliath task, and were only able to respond to 2,500 of these calls, whilst running 20 legal casework files.

This underfunding is not acceptable and doesn’t give us renters a reasonable opportunity to enforce the available rights of ourselves and our families. Like all Queenslanders, all we want is a fair go.

I know that renters will unite behind this cause, as it is in their interest to do so. We are no longer the old stereotype, but are hardworking Queenslanders readying ourselves to one day own a home, and our population is only growing. The RTA is entirely funded on the interest from tenant bonds, which was upwards of 47 million dollars last year. Landlords and agents get enormous benefit and a free service from this use of the tenants’ bond interest. When this was first established, it seemed reasonable for tenants to give away their individual right to interest on their bonds, when there was a universal benefit of access to specialist services. Now it just seems grossly unfair.

We deserve and demand a better funded Tenants Queensland. My question to you, as our local contending member, is what support will you offer to Tenants Queensland, and in turn, your electorate whom are renters?

I eagerly await your response and stance on this important issue.


Hi Robert

Thank you very much for contacting Grace to share your personal experience of
renting and your concern for the Tenancy Queensland. QLD Labor if committed to
ensuring their is affordable housing and regulations that protect renters. In April 2014
Member for Bundamba Jo-Ann Miller introduced a Private Member’s Bill into the
Parliament, calling for new laws that will crack down on so-called ‘slumlords’ –
landlords that don’t provide an appropriate standard of housing for tenants.
Information about this can be found at

You may also be interested in QLD Labor’s Housing Policy that is available on our
website at

I have included the relevant sections from this policy below.

We hope that we are elected on Saturday so we can begin to implement these policy.

Best wishes

Vicky @ Team Grace

7.20 Access to safe, adequate, appropriate and affordable housing is a basic right of
7.21 Government assistance is required for those who are unable to obtain adequate
secure and affordable housing in the private market.
7.22 Private and public residential development should be planned, sustainable and
encompass a variety of housing types that cater to the differing needs of people of
different ages, family circumstances and cultural values.
7.23 Home ownership is a legitimate goal of most people. Labor supports that goal,
including for low and middle income earners.
7.24 Local communities, residents and representative groups should be involved
possible in decisions relating to the planning, development, management and
operation of public housing.
7.25 Ongoing efforts must be made across government to reduce homelessness by
working with all levels of government and the non-government sector to improve and
expand homelessness services. A particular focus is getting homeless people into
stable employment with an income that enables them to end rather than manage their

Assistance to Tenants
7.26 Labor will provide legislative protections for tenants in the private rental market
(including right of appeal against listings on tenant databases) and restore outreach
and advocacy services for public housing tenants and private renters.
7.27 Labor will protect tenants in the private rental market from cost shifting by
agents and acknowledges that the cost associated with the collection of rents is the
responsibility of the lessors/agents.
7.28 Labor will restore tenancy advisory services including the Tenant Advice and
7.29 Labor will work with all levels of government, the private sector and the
sector to develop and restore rent relief and advisory schemes,
innovative rental housing such as cost-rent associations and common equity housing,
cooperatives, joint public and private schemes, joint ventures with State and Local
government and lease-back arrangements.

Housing Assistance for Special Needs
7.30 Labor recognises that some groups in the community have special housing
including the elderly, caravan/mobile home park residents, women, young people,
Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples, families, people from multicultural
backgrounds and people with a disability. Labor will tailor housing programs and
develop accommodation types that recognise and cater to these specialised needs.
Commonwealth–State Housing and Funding
7.31 Labor will support the National Affordable Housing Agreement as the mechanism
ensuring that adequate Commonwealth and State funds are guaranteed for secure
and affordable housing programs.
7.32 Labor will also support the National Housing Strategy.
7.33 Labor will ensure that State housing authorities are provided with sufficient
funding to
achieve the policy objectives in this section.
Home Finance and Home Ownership Assistance
7.34 Labor will work with the Federal Government and the private sector to broaden
source and types of finance available for housing.
7.35 Labor will encourage financial institutions to provide finance to innovate housing
schemes, encouraging the introduction of more flexible mortgage schemes such as
capital-indexed and other low start loans.
7.36 Labor will develop assistance to help home buyers to bridge the deposit gap. It
assist with interest payments and ensure that any state schemes in this area are
coordinated with any Commonwealth Government schemes.
7.37 Labor will support moves to target first home owners with assistance, tax relief
mechanisms and similar grants towards low income households.
Housing Cost
Regulation and Development of Affordable Housing
7.38 Labor will monitor the adequacy of stocks of serviced land throughout
Queensland to
avoid price escalation caused by shortages.
7.39 Labor will regularly review building codes and regulations, housing and
standards and private regulation through developers’ covenants with a view to
removing obsolete and inconsistent requirements that impose unnecessary costs
without significantly enhancing amenities.
7.40 Labor will assist in the development of innovative housing projects using
planning and engineering methods while maintaining standards.
7.41 Labor will amend legislation to provide affordable housing in areas of housing
where planning changes and urban renewal permit redevelopment.

7.42 Labor will actively encourage industry and public superannuation funds to
the provision of affordable housing on previously unreleased state government land
through prudential investment of funds, and the extent of this investment is to be
reported annually to members.
Public Housing
7.43 Labor will increase public housing stock to continue to reduce waiting lists to a
reasonable level.
7.44 Labor will ensure that state Housing Authorities are provided with sufficient
to allow public housing accommodation to be expanded to at least 10% of the total
housing stock in each region by 2020.
7.45 To assist with meeting the above goal, upon the sale of State Government land
designated for housing development, a minimum of 10% of the land or land value
equivalent will be set aside for social housing (both public and community).
7.46 Labor will ensure public housing rental rebate policies do not require tenants to
more than 25% of household income in rent, unless there is an agreement with the
housing authority to charge a higher rate for the provision of additional services.
7.47 Labor will increase the public housing stock through a combination of public
tender and direct construction, acquisition through spot purchase, restoration and
rehabilitation of existing structurally sound dwellings, and promoting small scale
redevelopment projects in existing residential areas.
7.48 Labor will review all State Government land holdings with a view to releasing
land for
affordable housing development in accordance with the principles and policies in this


Two front teeth – Someone opened their present early…Now what do I do?

Check these chompers !

Check these chompers !

It seems that just like his Mum, if little Rory wants something, he just goes and gets it, which makes him, like his Mum, rather hard to buy for. I had planned to get him his two front teeth for Christmas, thinking I had plenty of time considering he is not even 5 months yet. However, true to genetic form, he has already got his two front teeth. What am I to do now? Chew it over I guess…

There has been a lot of discussion lately about non-gender toys, no more pink for girls, or soldiers for boys, so it makes the decision even harder. I’m sure many fathers before me hadn’t given much thought to what toys to buy a little one, and just bought what was put forward to them. I believe that most toys are typically seasonal and aren’t played with for too long anyway, as each child is constantly looking for some new treat. How else do you explain such a big toy industry, and in most homes, overflowing toy boxes full of stuff hardly touched anymore? Unless of course you call tripping on the strategically placed plastic lounge-mines and then putting them away, as touching. So what do I get a little one that doesn’t even know you exist once you’ve left the room ?’s a tough call. 912_3

To be honest I won’t be searching for something pink, but I also won’t buy him something typically male oriented. Even though I totally agree that gender stereotypes shouldn’t be forced on our young, so much so, that I intentionally wrote my first children’s book to be non-gender specific – I never refer to the central character’s sex. (Insert shameless plug for The Tale of Kangaroo Point here). But seriously, I feel this discussion of non-gender buying to be a little left of the mark, because either way, most of the toys that are made are pretty much useless bits of plastic that will end up in some land fill, or hopefully a second hand op shop to be recycled. I think the real discussion is, what will be the long term benefit of giving such an item ? Experience should be seen like currency, and I don’t want to be buying something that has no long term benefits, and quickly becomes worthless once you leave the store. I feel toys should be a capital investment in my little one, and therefore I want them to promote growth and yield a high return. Perhaps there is a little accountant in me after all, this would please my parents.


Same beach, same family.


New generation, new millennia.

Looking back, I can see that my Mum and Dad didn’t buy me anything they saw as pointless, even the board games I received tended to be like Boggle, or Scrabble (the original Words With Friends),  because they wanted me to learn during play, and probably also being an only child, they didn’t want to be playing something with me that had no point to it…ironically, The Game of Life sat in this category.

This Christmas, the decision for me on what to get, probably isn’t so important, as the little guy seems pretty occupied by his toes at the moment, but as his interests evolve it will be up to me to help guide him, like my Dad did for me. For the moment I’ve noticed he likes banging his hands on anything; tables; his thighs; his mum’s face; my crotch (ouch), so I’m thinking maybe a little drum or keyboard with sound effects might be a winner – try to channel that inner beat and rhythm. I will let you know how I go post summer equinox.

Anyway to wrap things up…yes I went there (it’s ok, I’m a Dad now), I put this to you little Rory – when you are old enough to read, and you are asking for the latest plastic crapenator, I will refer you to this little piece as to why you received a telescope, a chemistry set, or something sport like. If I feel a toy doesn’t help you learn something, you won’t be getting it from me, but feel free to buy it yourself with your earned pocket money, because Son, that’s the value of currency, if it’s your own, you can get what you want, and if it’s not, be thankful you get anything at all xxx

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Stuff you have done lately

1. Said Dad three times (yes I can lay claim to the first word), not sure if you knew what you were saying but like any good Aussie, I’ll claim it. It took you some effort to get it out and much concentration, but it went like this NnnnnnnnnnnnnDaaaaaaaaaad. Too cute and your Mum can vouch for it also. You have also said No to Avó…cheeky monkey.

2. You have had your first couple of flights, and you’re a good little flyer. I’ve only had to by earplugs for a passenger once, and you prefer bosoms for a pillow (Cornershop’s song holds true).

3. You like to smack your Mum in the face to wake her up.

4. You are not big on being left alone, even for a minute. Hence your Mum has dubbed you the ginger whinger, only because it’s easier to rhyme than auburn.

5. You are getting better at tummy time, although since you have learnt to roll, you much prefer to do that.


6. Your farts stink ! Like a little stinky malinky poo poo monster.

7. You love spinning, rolling, and being thrown and caught. Your face lights up and you start giggling with glee ( Your mother hates the up up catch game but it’s our little secret;)

8. You love the boogah song and all its re-mixes. He’s the boog boog boogiddy boog.

9. You can hold your own bottle, and have learnt how to get monkey to play his music by pulling on the handle.

912_1110. You have swum in the ocean and a pool. You weren’t really sure about it both times but you did have a little kick kick.

11. You adore your Avó and her big pillows, and love nudey nude time during your daily bath with Mummy.

12. Your yoga skills have become enviable, you can actually put your foot in your mouth and I don’t mean by saying the wrong thing, that will come later.

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With our little boy teething, his sleep has become even more precious. To help soothe and settle we use shooshas (dummies) from the freezer, and if needed we put a little (as directed) bonjela on the bottom of the shoosha and rub the area affected before bed. I’m not game to put my finger in after hearing his Mum’s cries. Occasionally, if he’s really irritable and all else fails, we use baby Panadol liquid via a syringe. During the day it is all about taking his mind off the sore little gums with plenty of play and love.

Our Top 10 Weeks


The weeks have certainly flown, with the caring of little Rory an ever reminding presence of what it is to be busy, and what can be done with one’s time. It’s amazing to look back over photos for this journal and see the timeline of his early life. I didn’t realise the extent of change that takes place in such a short period. This bearded blog captures the journey so far, in the form of a little montage of moments from weeks 0 to 10, now capsuled and kept, in case my memories don’t. I have also included some of my favourite pictures of Rory throughout, so let’s get into the top 10, before I forget.


Holding Rory – At first, I was handling Rory like the last egg in an egg and spoon race, slow and timid, frantically worrying about supporting the head. Now I’m about as timid as a hungry trucker, demolishing his big breakfast.

Changing Nappies – Leakage is a thing of the past, either Rory has grown enough to fill out the leg space or I’ve become a grand master at the ancient art of nappy-gami. Probably a bit of both.

Noticing the different cries – I must say, my partner is way more adept at this skill, but I can discern between a hungry, trying to poo, wanting to be moved, and wanting to sleep cry. In the early weeks it was all just ear piercing wails, but the subtleties and nuances are now more apparent.

Dealing with Nappy Rash / Cradle Cap – Thankfully, we have only had to deal with this once within the first ten weeks, but it was one of the most worrying situations. We thought we had been changing the nappies regularly enough, but it seems we had not been drying his little bot bot well enough before putting on the new nappy. His little backside had become red raw, so much so, that it had created little carpet burn like marks. We applied Sudocrem regularly and liberally until the redness and sores disappeared (you can see from the picture the drying is now a breeze, and no, I don’t do this every time;). The plan onwards, is if there is even a little hint of redness, on goes the cream. We also try to alternate between disposables and cotton nappies to give the skin a rest, allowing the skin some time to breathe. Cradle Cap on the other hand, doesn’t appear to be preventable, and comes and goes like bad reception. Books suggest rubbing pure plant oil on the area, which reminds me of the great George Costanza, but we prefer using papaw ointment as it seems to clear up pretty quickly once applied.

Make the most of down time – As some of you might be aware, it has been weeks since my last blog. The honeymoon of the always sleeping and easily entertained baby are well over, Rory from about Week 4 onwards has been on a quest for stimulation, like the late Mr Cobain said ‘Here we are now, entertain us.’ We haven’t had the luxury of a baby that sleeps for 8 hour periods, like some of the legends I have heard about, so those small windows of opportunity to get stuff done or just to get a little shut eye for oneself are never to be wasted. Fortunately, as many of my friends would know, I’ve obtained a very good stock pile of downtime from previous years, although this seems a lifetime ago.

Working out his routine – I believe there have been many books written, and money exchanged, to work out the one true routine that binds all others. We as parents, like our personalities, kind of went with the flow and let Rory dictate his routine. My partner was the first to notice that little Rory was tending to go to sleep from 6pm onwards to about 10:30 or so, once this was realised our ‘make the most of down time’ was amplified. I have noticed more little routines pop up through out the day and I try to adhere to them, life commitments pending. A friend of mine gave me a general rule of thumb, 6, 10,  & 2 is a way to make it through.


Tummy time – I’ll come out and say this, Rory hates tummy time, he seriously has a major dislike looking down at the world and can only tolerate it for very brief periods of time. A friend of ours gave us a curved cushion that can be placed under his chest to provide more support, this has worked to a degree, it’s now a couple of minutes rather than seconds before he tells us what he really thinks. All the books say Tummy time is very important for development, so we persist, and persist. Another method to try is to put them on their belly before changing them, even if it’s just a brief moment. Slowly, they are supposed to get used to the idea. The tummy saga though is still a major learning curve so any advice in this area from anyone in the know is more than welcomed.

Swaddle, Cuddle, Cradle & a Kiss – This mantra works wonderfully for putting our little guy onto the snooze train. Even if he looks like he’ll never settle down, with flailing limbs, arched back, and letting the neighbours know his concerns, this SCCK method works 99% of the time. The swaddle makes him feel snug and secures the flailing limbs, the cuddle soothes him so he can nestle into your torso, the cradle gets him used to the idea of being on his back, and the kiss, well the kiss is for you. A dummy ( or what we call a Shoosha ) can be used in conjunction with this method.

Sleeping – Following on from SCCK, the next lesson for us to learn was to where to put the bub to sleep. Conventionally, we thought cot or bassinette, and had bought both in preparation. One for his room, one for our room. Perfect we thought, in reality…not so much. Rory didn’t like either cot or bassinette, and we stayed up many nights trying to work out what to do. How about I rest my hand in the cot, or maybe if I tape myself to the ceiling he can see I’m still there….it’s a mattress, it’s a cot, why won’t you sleep ?? Finally, at our wits end, we went down the more unconventional (or you did what ??) route of co-sleeping. I was apprehensive of co-sleeping at first, and still am for myself (got a story for this later), but with my partner it works fine as long as it’s safe. Rory’s head is placed higher up the bed than your own ( the pic I’ve shown below is a no no, but looks cosy ) so the covers won’t be pulled over the head, and pillows are placed in positions so he won’t roll off the bed or suffocate. Another method we have is in a swing (shown in pic above), as the rocking motion helps soothe and the slight angle helps with any possible reflux. We also have been given a rocking, floor level, bassinette, which works well for naps and the like, once again the access to a rocking motion helps. There is some great literature out there to ease any of your concerns on these alternative methods, in the end, it is best to keep your options open and use common sense when it comes to safety.

What works today may not tomorrow – This motto is my most important realisation to date. With an ever changing bub where the goal posts of what they require and desire are constantly moving, it is hard to determine what will work this time or the next. This mystery seems to envelope all facets, from food intake, to soothing, to play time, and sleeping. I found keeping all options open is the best mindset, just keep trying all your different tricks of the trade, perhaps read up on some new ones, and sooner or later one will work. Keeping your mind open will help you keep your cool in this trial and error stage, and you will be soon rewarded with a contented, smiling baby in no time.


Hearing from friends and family, far and wide. It was extremely touching to receive all the well wishes, congratulations, and general outpouring of love from everyone. It’s lovely to see, and for Rory to be a part of the lives of so many great people.

Wayward sprays. I think I’ve previously mentioned Rory shooting Marilyn in the eye with a jet of wee. So very glad I was there to witness that. Well anyway, Marilyn has had just revenge, the other day a wayward stream of milk shot out from her bosom, coating Rory’s face, he was not as amused as I. At least he could lick the milk off though, unlike Marilyn.

Aeroplane Hand. This game has been one of the constants that Rory and I share. I used it originally to help him focus, and grow out of the cross-eyed chris stage as I called it. He loves following my hand flying through the air, with optional sound effects, and always gets a surprise when my hand whooshes towards him stroking his head as it passes. We can both enjoy this game for ages.

Realising the family bond with smiles, stroking, gripping, and playing. Over the weeks, Rory has been developing his motor skills and personality, and he is turning out to be a lovely, observant, good natured little boy. He is quick to be smiling, laughing, cooing, holding hands…or my chest hair (ouch), stroking mum whilst feeding, recognising and smiling at Netty (my mum) when we first open the door,  hugging monkey (which is a present, not a metaphor), and batting at the sun (also not a metaphor but a little toy on his mobile). He doesn’t cry too much, and when he does, we are quick to figure out why and lend a helping hand. Rory is also quite the chatterbox in the early mornings, telling us about last nights dreams at 5am the next day. I would say we could have a cheeky, mischievous little toddler on our hands soon enough.

r8Sitting up, and seeing the world. Even within the first few minutes of life outside the womb, Rory was interested in his surroundings, always observing with wonderment. He seemed to be quick to gain strength in his neck so that he could easily gaze at everything whilst being up in our arms. He also tends to get bored rather quickly on his back and wants to keep his view fresh and interesting. In the last few weeks he’s always trying to sit up, which he can do with a little help from us. He extends out his arms, grunts while staring at you, I’ll hold out my hands and hold onto his and he does a little sit-up to get into the sitting position, he’s then a happy little munchkin. Pretty funny to watch.

photo 5Anytime he is asleep. I love seeing him when so peaceful. I know that I’m bias, but I think he looks like the most beautifully serene little cherub when asleep. It makes my heart glow.

A cute little bottom lip quiver in late august. It was such a cute moment, and I was able to soothe him quick enough before Pandora’s box was opened. Rory nowadays makes many different, thank the heavens that’s over sighs, coos and breaths. It’s so funny how he see’s such magnitude in these moments, when all that took place was a change of clothes.

Latching onto his Mum. The start of the trying to breast feed phase was a pain for all involved. Sore nipples, crying baby, upset mum, hovering dad with clumsy fingers, made for too much drama for this guy. It was a tough period but with much persistence and some free lactation lessons, little Rory worked out how to get the pump working on the magical well. It was such a momentous moment that he was able to get his fill straight from the tap, as it is the quickest way to feed and soothe him. We still use expressed milk and formula when required, but the ability to whack him on the boob is a great one to achieve, especially for those 2am feeds.

Morning chats with Mum.  Who would have thought two night owls would produce a morning person, but this is the case. Every morning at about 5am, young Rory is up bright eyed and bushy tailed, ready for the day. At this time of day he’s a little chatterbox, and is consistently showing signs of his growth. A lot of his new achievements are showcased first thing in the morning. I must admit though, his mother tends to be the one who is awake with him at this time. The most recent addition to his vocal repertoire is neeeeeeh, he’s loving it at the moment, ooooooooooohneeeeeeeeh. Cute !!!

Bath time. Rory enjoys a good wash, whether it be in the tub with mum, or on his own in his portable bath. His face is a mix of serenity, curiosity, and trust during these bath times. His little arms are extended out holding onto mum with one arm and onto my arm hair with the other. I’m glad the hospital gave us a quick run through on how to bath Rory as I’ve kept to their method. One arm under the head holding his left arm, and my other hand holding his leg, it feels very secure even when he’s kicking about in the soapy water. I love the way he looks up at me with a face that says ‘You got me Dad, I’m ok right?’, I smile down reassuringly, ‘of course I do son.’ He then looks over at Mum with the same question in his eyes before he settles in for a good scrub. Once clean, he’s out, dried and oiled, and ready for his next adventure. Got to love a nude baby bot bot, he actually enjoys it when I give his cheeks a tender slap saying ‘Nudey Nude !’, he giggles each time, wiggling his chubby legs.



Breast Pump.

A good travel bag with change mat.

Tommy Tippee Nappy Bin.

Shoosha / Dummy / Pacifier ( as much as I hate to say it).

A nappy that doesn’t leak. ( I recommend Naty )


Peg Perrego Capsule, Car seat, stroller in one.

A swing and bassinette that rocks.

Microwave steriliser Bags / Container

Well set up change table, with wipes, disposable mats, sudocrem, hand sanitiser, diapers on hand etc.

What a good boy or boogah as we like to call him.

r2I can’t believe ten weeks has passed but then again it feels like Rory has always been there. It’s a strange feeling having a new born come into your life, it’s a bit like growing up with your parents, in that it was never uncomfortable or foreign as they have always been apart of your life. Having little Rory just fits, there is no awkwardness or clumsy conversations, no need to be someone you’re not, no need to feel like you have outstayed your welcome, no need to tip toe around a personality, just the need for love, care and a helping hand, even though it’s extremely tiring, you can always find that little extra to keep you going. It’s a true love he gives you, as he knows nothing less, and he is authentically appreciative of all the help, probably until he can help himself….then comes the awkwardness, the tip toeing, the outstayed your welcome, I suppose that might not be until the teenage years. Better enjoy this while it lasts, I’ve got another 666 weeks to go till he’s a teenager, even the number seems ominous, oh well, I guess he can’t always be my little angel, but as all parents can probably attest to, and something I’ve heard my nanna and mum say, no matter how old they become, they’re still your baby.
Tip of the Ice-blog # 9

If you are a restless, kick your leg, talk in your sleep kind of person, it probably isn’t best to fall asleep next to your little one. As I hinted at before I’ve had a little incident with Rory whilst we were both sleeping. I should have realised it might not be best for me to sleep right next to Rory, when I first accidentally violently shoved my partner in my sleep, because in my dream I was pushing away a Komodo Dragon that was trying to eat the hypnotic turtle that I was protecting (yup my dreams are lucid and freaky). The incident with Rory, I was being held captive by someone who was leaning over the top of me, and I went to bite his arm to get away, and I awoke to poor little Rory’s cheek in my mouth, and he let out a ‘Why did you do that???’ yelp and cry. It was the weirdest feeling, to go from one world into another to find yourself about to bite into your bub’s cheek. It only left a little mark, and wasn’t serious…this time, but safe to say I don’t sleep next to him anymore, which is a shame, but one I’m happy to live with. I’m sure Mr Freud would have a few words to say about it all if he was still alive.





In Da Club (New Parent Remix feat. My fifty cents)

indaclubYou’re probably starting to think that I’m getting a little gangsta keeping with the R&B theme, but a good club beat is hard to knock. I loved the song, In Da Club by 50 cent when it came out, it bridged a gap across my mainstream musical landscape. It let me experience another side to life. Nodding my head, I felt like I was in da club, even if it was for a fleeting moment.

It’s a lovely place to be, in a club, a place where you can share an experience, or a time of your life with another. Especially, when it’s your love. I used to own a Kombi, I dubbed it Blue Moon, and I was absolutely stoked when I could finally drive something I loved everyday. The Kombi is of course, loved by many, and I had unexpectedly found myself in a new da da da da da da da club. I would drive down the coast, or just around town visiting friends, loving the feeling of sitting up high on the road, turning a bus wheel, and listening to da humming of the engine. Other Kombi drivers, knowing the joy I was experiencing, would wave when passing, or chat about it at parks or parties, lovingly sharing the finer details of our motor babies – Is yours a pop top too? How good are they!! kombibeard

It was such a nice connection to a greater unknown community. Random conversations with people who I didn’t know, except for the fact that we shared a love, and each time was a pleasant and interesting encounter. I’m sure everyone can relate, we all have our loves and hobbies.

Although I ended up having to cash in at this club, selling my beloved blue moon to finance another beloved which involved an extended stay in Ireland, I knew that the club would be fine without me. It has plenty of members, I would miss it, but in the end I was just happy to be a part of it.

I’m now over the moon, in more ways than one, at being a new devotee to the long awaited (especially in my mum’s eye) parent club, and it’s the best club ever ! Better than any club by a mile and half, with a membership greater than any club I can think of. I am finding it so very true in what they say, you’ll never love something more. It’s amazing the capacity for parents and strangers to connect over common loves, and the most common love that we have as humans, I now believe, is the love of our own child, perhaps the love of a good sleep coming a close second. As a fresh club member, and perhaps feeling a little enlightened from the initiation of sleep deprivation, I now understand this common love, and love to share this love with all other members – old, new, soon to be, and want to be. It’s a great way to bond.

Just today, Marilyn and I had a wonderful discussion with a Mum, and her 1 year old, Connor. It was so interesting to see another bub hitting his first year milestone, especially when compared to our just turned four week old bub. We could see a little bit into our future, and were eager to hear stories of what was to come, the mother more than happy to chat to new club members to share her experience.

Another time, we met with close friends at New Farm Park down near the river, and one of the couples had a two year old, Leo. Again for us, it felt like looking into the crystal ball and seeing the future. Greg, Leo’s father, is probably looking ahead at 4 year olds, and marvelling the steps Leo will climb.

From just these two experiences, it was crystal clear, the huge advances our little ones take in the first couple of years. From our little Rory, still sleeping, grumbling, and a little unsure, to Connor, sitting up at the café tables having his first babyccino and waving at other clientele, to Leo, standing tall, playing games with adults, and showing signs of the little man he is to be.


I’m ready for the car !

I can’t wait to see little Rory become the little man he is to be, and he’s already showing signs that he’s enjoying the journey. Hopefully one day, down the track, he will have the pleasure of joining this new parent club too, and myself and Marilyn, a grander club again.

Tip of the Ice-blog #8

Bouncing baby boy, this old adage is so true. Our little guy loves to bounce, and it is one of the best methods for getting him to calm, burp, poop and sleep. My other mates who are fathers have said the same. If all else fails, bounce in da club ya hear !